108 Cheap or Free Date Night Ideas

How many couples have ever had this conversation?: 

"What do you want to do tonight/today?"

"I don't know. What do you want to do?"

"I don't know. Wanna watch a DVD?"

"Ok. That works."

This conversation is pretty common in the James household. Truly, this has occurred way more often than I care to admit. Something had to give! 

I have been saving date night ideas on Pinterest for awhile now, and I decided to create my own list from those. Here are our favorites:

1.  Plan a trilogy movie marathon.  Lord of the Rings, The Godfather, Mighty Ducks…some of the greats.

2. Create a playlist of some of your favorite music, and dance to it under the stars.

3. Draw each other’s portraits…wait for it…with your non-dominant hand!  Laugh at the results.  Then frame ‘em!

4. Sit down together and write postcards to some of your favorite people.

5. Go kayaking together.  For extra fun working on teamwork, double-kayak!

6. Visit a pet store and play with the puppies and kittens!  (Beware, you might bring one home.)

7. Food Crawl: enjoy an appetizer at one place, the main course at another, and the dessert at a third place!

8. Don your favorite 80s outfits, and hit the roller rink!

9. Write a list of 101 things you two are thankful for.

10. YouTube video marathon; share some of your favorites with each other.

11. Hit up the bowling alley…lowest score wins! 

12. Create a marriage bucket list together, and set a date for your first item.

13. DIY Duo: scour Pinterest for a project you’re both excited to work on.  Then, execute!

14. Go to a local orchard or farm and load up some bushels of fruit to bring home!

15. Visit a coffee shop together for some conversation over hot drinks.

16. Visit a “paint-your-own-pottery” place and create something for each other.

17. Enjoy some wine and cheese together as you watch the sunset.

18. Get up early to watch the sunrise; then, make a hot breakfast together and eat it in bed.

19. Attend a poetry or book reading together.  (Check what your local Barnes & Noble has to offer.)

20. Take a trip to the park and draw up blueprints of your dream home together!

21. Make homemade pizzas with wild toppings.

22. Build a fire in the firepit (or fireplace), and roast s’mores. 

23. Read aloud to each other from one of your favorite books.

24. Take a free factory tour.

25. Put on your bathing suits and have a water balloon fight.  Why not?

26. Prepare and enjoy a special fondue dinner together…followed by fondue dessert!

27. Tackle a volunteer project together through your local church, community center, or an organization like Habitat for Humanity.

28. Game Night!  Enjoy a tourney with some of your favorite board games. 

29. Create an audio recording of you each interviewing each other, a la Story Corps.

30. Bust out a deck of cards and play a game!  Poker, Go Fish…you get the picture.

31. Go Geo-Caching!  (What’s Geo-Caching?  Find out HERE.)

32. Sign up for a walk, run, or bike race together.  Enjoy several “date days” preparing for the big day! 

33. Go camping!  Borrow equipment from a friend if you don’t have your own, roast hot dogs over a fire for dinner, and completely unplug from technology.  Even if it just for a night.  Even if in your own backyard!

34. Hop in the car together and hit the open road for a memorable day trip.   

35. Visit your local frozen yogurt spot, and go topping crazy.

36. Childhood movie night!  Watch each of your favorite childhood movies while snacking on popcorn.

37. Mini-golf never gets old.  Especially Glow-Golf.

38. Recreate a memorable meal together from a special event or past anniversary.

39. Go to a thrift store together, set a budget, and choose outfits for each other!

40. Get up early on a Saturday and hit the garage sales together early for some new finds! 

41. Take an evening stroll together around your neighborhood and dream about your future.

42. Choose a new TV series to dive into together!  Watch way more episodes in a row than you probably should.

43. Create a mall scavenger hunt for yourselves.

44. Create an ice cream sundae bar at home for kicks.

45. Go to the nearest jungle-gym and swing on the swings like you did in days of old.  It’ll keep you young.  

46. Spa Night!  Give each other massages and exfoliate with face masques.

47. Research and then visit some of your town’s historic sites!

48. Pack a picnic dinner and enjoy an outdoor movie…even if it’s on a laptop in your backyard! 

49. Choose a meal you’ve never made before, go on a grocery run, and then cook dinner together back at home.

50. Visit your local library or bookstore together, find some good books, and then cozy up in a corner reading side by side.

51. Have a cookie bake-off!

52. Dye eggs together.

53. Go paddle-boating.

54. Go for an evening swim at your local pool or gym pool.

55. Browse Craigslist together for some amazing local deals.

56. Pick up some water-guns at your local toy store, and have a water-gun fight!  You can even invite neighborhood friends in on the date.

57. Toss around a frisbee in the backyard.

58. Research inexpensive ways to enjoy your city.  

59. Support the arts!  Get dolled up for a night of live theatre.  (You can often get discounts to see dress rehearsals, matinees, or rush tickets the day of!)

60. 10 Things I Love About You: set a timer for 10 minutes and each write a list of 10 things you love about the other person…then read them to each other.  Prepare for plenty of “Awwww” moments.

61. Attend a local sports game.

62. Explore a state park by car, by foot, or by canoe.  

63. Stroll through a farmer’s market together.  Buy fresh ingredients for your next few meals.

64. Visit the zoo, petting farm, or aquarium on discount / free days!

65. Fun in the sun: hang out at the beach or the harbor or the lake together for the day.

66. Build a fort out of blankets in the living room, and cuddle up to watch a romantic movie together.

67. Learn a new sport together!  Croquet, badminton, tennis…heck, you can event invent a sport together.

68. Take a class together: dancing, painting, cooking….

69. Go to an arcade!

70. Get a Groupon for a special night out on the town together.  You can usually nab some pretty sweet deals!

71. Visit your local science center, planetarium, conservatory, or botanical gardens.

72. Go to a community hall and play BINGO.

73. On a windy day, fly a kite together at the park.

74. Get in the car and just drive to get lost.  It’ll be an adventure!  (Just make sure you have plenty of gas, so it doesn’t turn into a misadventure.)

75. Plan out a dream trip for one of your upcoming anniversaries.

76. Visit a local festival together.  Many of them are free!  Just check out your town’s website for their calendar of events.

77. Bring your own lawn chairs for an evening of outdoor theatre or music.

78. Write letters to each other that you’ll open 20 years from now.

79. Challenge each other to a Wii/Kinect tournament.

80. Go to a coffee shop with a book or game.

81. Get together with another couple for a simple meal or dessert.

82. Hit a bucket of balls at the driving range. 

83. Test drive a car just for fun.

84. Go through all those old papers, clean-up your computer’s hard-drive, and find a place for all the errant items in your house.

85. Tackle a nagging task-This is one of Gretchen Rubin’s (author of The Happiness Project) super tips for happiness. The shower needs caulking, the windows need sealing so scratch those pesky tasks off the To-Do list once and for all.

86. Play putt-putt golf. Winner buys ice cream!

87. Take a cooking class together at a local parks and rec or community college. Have a friend who loves to cook? Ask them to teach you.

88. Go to a drive in movie.

89. Grab a few laughs at a comedy club or rent a funny movie.

90. Love Languages. Take The 5 Love Languages Test to see how to improve your relationship. End the evening with our Easy Chocolate Dipped Strawberries!

91. Reread a book you own.

92. Rearrange your furniture.

93. Try a new hairstyle at home-or give each other a temporary makeover

94. Plant some flowers in your garden.

95. Photograph local sights.

96. Pick out a new bottle of wine to try. Or go to a wine tasting!

97. Go frisbee golfing

98. Attend an offbeat happy hour.
Most workweek happy hours can become crowded super quickly, so head to a local watering hole on a Saturday or Sunday afternoon for less elbowing and shorter lines.

99. Host a foreign movie night (with a twist). 
Pop in an international film but skip the subtitles. Instead, try guessing what’s going on just by watching the plot unfold (bonus points for narration).

100. Play bartender.
Skip the bars one evening and play cocktail master at home. Whip up seasonal beverages like apple cider margaritas or old favorites like mojitos and battle it out to see who makes the best drink.

101. Go to a trivia night. 
Is one of you an avid fan of Arrested Development or The Simpsons? Flaunt it! Many bars hold friendly competitions that focus on a specific genre or TV series, or just pop culture in general. Some even offer cash prizes.

102. Walmart bingo

103. Play "Would You Rather?" You will learn a lot about a person that you never knew when they are faced with a crazy question . . . you can find a lot of questions here.

104. Forget Wine and Cheese . . . how about a Chocolate Tasting night?

105. Have a "finger foods only" dinner and feed each other.

106. Invest in an ice cream maker or a bread maker (you can actually get some pretty decent ones for really cheap at a local thrift store or consignment store) and invent your own concoctions.

107. Take some personality tests and compare your results. Here are some good ones: Jung, True Colors, The 5 Love Languages, and The Color Code.

108. Go dancing

If you are stuck in a date night rut,  try out something on this list. There is plenty to choose from!

Sincerely,

Mrs. James

P.S. All sources for these ideas are listed here:

http://www.thinkingcloset.com/2014/01/31/101-creative-date-nights-on-a-dime/

http://www.4tunate.net/2013/07/30-cheap-date-ideas-for-married-couples/

http://www.stayathomesusie.com/77-super-fun-date-ideas/

http://andthenwesaved.com/things-to-do-instead-of-spending-money/

http://emmalinebride.com/planning/50-best-cheap-date-ideas/

http://www.sixsistersstuff.com/2013/01/32-stay-at-home-date-ideas-plus-links.html

http://www.organizinglifewithlittles.com/2013/09/11/date-ideas-on-15-or-less/

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Best Budgeting Tool

Budgeting is a pretty big part of 2014 James Place. Mr. James and I have hefty aspirations in life as far as our finances are concerned: pay off student loans, live debt free, and Mr. James owning his own business. We know that what we do now will directly affect our financial success in the future. This is where a budget is so important.

Isn't this cute? I wish I could take credit for it. However, Thirty Handmade Days perfected the budgeting binder, so if it ain't broke, why fix it?

I love this budget binder. She has included almost anything you could ever want. I do not use all of the papers, but just what works best for me. 

At the front of my budget binder, I have included a small pouch to place my checks, car notes, pens, etc. I also have a section for each month. This enables me to track back to what I have previously budgeted as well as placing anything I need for future months. If you need some budgeting help, head on over to Thirty Handmade Days and download her budgeting pages. They will save your sanity when it comes to paying your bills and saving towards your future goals.

Love Always,

Mrs. James

Why I Switched to Spark Naturals

In my last post, I talked about why I started using essential oils for my family. Long story short, my dog has severe allergies. The essential oils we began to use helped us find a more natural way to combat the itching he experienced on a day to day basis.

When I got into essential oils in April, I researched Pinterest, blogs, and Facebook groups to find ideas for how to use essential oils for allergies. The most common theme I found was a combination of lemon, lavender, and peppermint. Guys, this combo works!

However, as with many things in the holistic world, it was high in price and taking a pretty hard hit to our budget. As an extremely frugal family, this was hard for us to handle or justify. By buying our oils through Young Living, a 15ml bottle each of lavender, lemon, and peppermint  was lasting us about two months and costing us $56.25 BEFORE taxes and shipping. Ouch! This was more than we were spending on Darty's food! We had to find another solution or Darty might have had to go back taking Benadryl, which was the last thing we wanted to do.

A childhood friend, Lacey Foster over at Haute Mess Mama, had been using another company for her essential oils, Spark Naturals. She had been using them almost 8 months and seemed very pleased with the company. I looked up their prices preparing myself for the worst, and I was amazed! So much cheaper than Young Living! But, I needed to be sure they were still pure and safe for ingestion since that is the way Darty gets his oils. I messaged Lacey back and forth that night, and after having many discussions with Mr. James, we decided we needed to make sure that Spark Naturals were the way we wanted to go before making the leap.

If you are new to the essential oil world, it can sometimes be very confusing. The reality is, there are currently no regulations on essential oils. And the certified ones? They create their own certifications, which is why every company has a different certification! You can read more about that here and here.

Another big push with Young Living is that you truly know where your oils come from and can even go visit the farms. That's honestly pretty cool, but is it a necessity? When was the last time most of the families in America visited the farms that produced their fruits, vegetables, and meats? The answer is, probably not as many as actually use essential oils. Therefore, it's an amazing feat, but not a necessity unless I put forth the same dedication to EVERYTHING I put on or in my body.

So I began a hunt for unbiased, third-party testing. Not the "third-party testing" claimed by many of the companies, but a true test of the essential oils by someone who would not gain to have them altered. And I finally found it. Some donations were made for third party testing to occur for many different oil companies. There was only one occurrence that had both Young Living and Spark Naturals testing with the same oil. Other tests were conducted in which Young Living scored well and Spark Naturals did not, but for the sake of science, I cannot use those for an accurate comparison since they were not the same oil. Who knows if the results would be switched if the oils were switched?

On the peppermint essential oil, Spark Naturals oil was closer to the ISO standard than Young Living was. However, both were not close enough according to the third party tester, yet the results also proved that neither company are using any artificial ingredients. That means that both oil companies are true to their word, they don't have any artificial fillers, and are safe for ingestion. That was all I needed to know.

Truly pure oils that are at cheaper price point? Sign me up!!

Also, Spark Naturals already has their own allergy LLP blend. The means I won't have to continue to buy three separate oils every time I need more. I can just buy one 15mL bottle of the LLP for all of Darty's needs. Double score!

If you are already an avid EO user or are considering making the jump, I think you should really give Spark Naturals a strong consideration. You can find the oils you are looking for here.

Be sure to use the coupon code: jamesplace to receive 10% off your entire order!

Let me know if I can answer any questions or concerns!

Sincerely,

Mylie James

Why I use Essential Oils

Look. At. This. Face.

This little guy is my only child, and I treat him accordingly. His name is D'Artagnan (DAR-TAN-YUN) after the Three Musketeers, and he brings a smile to my face every single day. He is what helped me keep my sanity when Mr. James and I were living 5 hours apart for 9 months.

I truly love this little guy.

But, it has not all been smooth sailing. Last October, I hit an all-time low with this little man. D'Artagnan (Darty for short) had chewed a huge sore on his front forearm. His forearm chewing had started immediately after he and I moved to the Dallas/Fort Worth area in August. Mr. James and I had discussions at length about it, but our only conclusion was that it was the anxiety about the move. Surely it would eventually go away, right?

The day that sore appeared, I lost it. I felt like I had failed as his parent, his caregiver, his protector. I should have done something to prevent it. I shouldn't have left him at home when I was at work all day. I truly didn't know what was wrong with him, but I was certain that it was all my fault.

We promptly took Darty to the vet and were scared that the diagnosis was going to be bad parenting. The vet took one look at him and declared it was allergies. WHAAAAT?! How could he be so certain??

Well, Darty's paws had a reddish tint to them which is one of the tell-tale signs of pet allergies. You can see an example here:

Yep! There it is! The allergy culprit!!

The only combat for dog allergies was for Darty to take steroids for a month. Man, they worked like a charm. No more biting…his arm healed…and he no longer behaved like my dog. He became lethargic and no longer wanted to interact with anyone. Dang it.

The only other solution we were given by the vet was two Benadryl a day.

But Mrs. James, what does all of this have to do with essential oils?

Glad you asked! The 2x/day Benadryl continued until an amazing speech pathologist introduced me to Young Living essential oils in April. She had some outstanding success with her own family, and I was eager to try them with Darty to combat his allergies in lieu of the Benadryl. Mr. James was not completely convinced they would work, so I made a slow transition to oils-only. It took some trial and error. I assumed topical applications would be best, but he fought me hard when I tried to place oils on him. After a bit of research on the internet, I began adding the oils to a bowl, placing a little bit of local honey and crackers on top. Success!! He loves his oil combo. By the end of May, Darty's allergies were still in-check and he was only using oils, no more Benadryl!

Since then, I have used essential oils for a multitude of ailments and have even made a jump on over to Spark Naturals essential oils. In my next post, I will talk about my research and why I decided to go with Spark Naturals long-term as opposed to Young Living.

In the meantime, if you are interested in essential oils, head on over to Spark Naturals to look around here: http://idevaffiliate.sparknaturals.com/idevaffiliate.php?id=4850

Be sure to use the coupon code: jamesplace to receive 10% off your entire order!

I hope that this was helpful and that you were able to use my experience to help you to decide to take the essential oil leap!

Sincerely,

Mrs. James